One of my Tantra teachings was to learn new ways of doing things, and to free myself of habits as much as possible.

Easier said than done. But possible. At least a bit, in particular when you try to be gentle to yourself.

Don’t be imitative as your senses might become dull.

Try to find your way of doing things in your own way.

Have your own signature on everything you do.

Tantra says as well that if you can go on finding new ways every day, your life will remain an adventure, a thrill. You will never be bored as you will always be curious to know, as you will always be on the verge of seeking the unfamiliar and the not-yet-known. 

If you are lucky, your senses will remain clear and your eyes open. 

Seeking, exploring, finding, searching. 

You cannot become dull, not stupid.

Apparently stupidity starts at the age of seven.

It seems to start around the age of four, but at the age of seven it is very apparent. 

Children normally starts to become stupid at the age of seven.

The child learns 50% of all the learnings of his whole life by that age.

If he will live until seventy, within 63 years, he will learn only 50%.

It might be true that the average mental age of people is 12 years. Maybe people don’t grow beyond that, they somehow get stuck. 

Is this the reason for so much childishness in the world?

Try it out: Trigger a person at the age of 45 years, maybe by insulting, by claiming love, and see what happens – within a blink of a second, he acts like a 12 year old kid. 


People are always ready to fall back into childishness behavior. Me, too. Just recently, I complained about a circumstance, I can never change but that triggered me so much, that I was acting like a teenage girl. 

Mental age issue. Physical age is actually of no importance. 

People die childish, might never grow.


Don’t be imitative as your senses might become dull.

Try to find your way of doing things in your own way.

Have your own signature on everything you do.

Only then you have the chance to develop open and clear senses.



Relationship remains a mystery. It depends on both as it exists between two people.

Relationship is created by you, but in its turn, relationship also creates you.

When two persons meet, two worlds meet. It’s most complex. Each person is a proper world. With a long past and an eternal future.

At the beginning, only two peripheries meet. If the relationship grows intimate and becomes closer and deeper, two centers start meeting. When cores meet, it is called love.

When peripheries meet, it is acquaintance. You touch just from the boundaries. Very often you call your acquaintance love but acquaintance is not love.

Love is very rare.

To be able to meet a person at his centre is to pass through a process yourself because you will have to allow to this person to reach your core too. You will have to become open, soft and vulnerable.

This is risky.

To allow someone to reach your centre is dangerous because you never know what this person will do to you.

The fear is there. Once you drop all the curtains, you show all your hidden parts and all your secrets are known – the fear is there: you never know what the other person will do, you never know.

That’s why we rarely and barley open up. Why we are satisfied if peripheries meet. We think that love hit us.

But you are not your periphery – that’s just the fencing around your core. It is not you. The periphery is just where you end and the world begins.

The more you live with someone on the base of acquaintances, the more you might lose awareness of your core. And your core might then remain even more unknown even to yourself.

One thing to remind: Try not to mix acquaintances with love.


What is LOVE?

Ohhhh – there are as many loves as there are people in the world.

Love varies from submission to power hierarchy, from animalistic sex to megasuperconsciousness, from egocentric sensations to caring emotions. There are many many many levels, many many many different stars of love. 

All depends on you. You alone.

If you are living on a lower vibe level, you might have a different idea of love than a person that is swinging on a higher vibe level.

Jesus will have one idea of love, Mao Zedong another one. Your yoga teacher again a different one as my former successful M&A colleague in Frankfurt.

At the lower level, love might be a game of politics, power politics. When love is infected by power, it is politics. However you might call it, it remains politics. 

Maybe it is true and the largest part of our population will never know anything about love as they experience love only on a political rung? Politics that exists between wife and husband, lovers and in the field of prostitution. It is politics as the only target is to dominate the other one. Even if you talk about love, it remains exploiting the other part. Running with an unconscious mechanism. Possessiveness, jealousy, envy, anger – all that becomes part of your love. Love then creates more misery than joy. 

Maybe this is why large part of humans have decided to not love anymore. They have decided to love a cat, a dog or a bird instead. As animals can be dominated well. As they will never dominate you. As they are not as complex as human beings.

The good part: Anything that becomes conscious disappears. A life rule – at least mine. Consciousness is key, also to rise up the vibe levels. 

Maybe another lovely task from life.


Coco – with love 


When you come close to your lover, once in a while, you become “one”, but those are rare moments, precious ones that you cannot make a 24/7 thing.

If you try, you will destroy them. The whole beauty of love might disappear. When that moment is lost, it is gone and the separation to “I” and “you” is the consequence.

“We” is a rare phenomenon. Once, for a few moments, lovers reach the point, where “I” and “you” disappears into each others, where boundaries melt away. Sweet, rare moments. Not to be taken for granted. 

We each need our own space and respectively treat the space of the other one: no interference, no trespassing. If you do, you hurt the other one. The other one’s personality start to be destroyed. But because the other one is loving you, your partner will tolerate your actions. Toleration has no sustainable power, no beauty. Therefore, there is the risk that your partner will take revenge. Accumulation starts … you have interfered with so many small things that one day they all explode.

That’s why lovers can’t stop fighting. Reason is the constant interference. 

The basic requirement for love is that the other one has to be given the absolute freedom to be himself. 

If he is happy, if you can be happy and participate in his happiness: good. If you cannot, leave him alone. 

If he is sad, if you can participate in his sadness: great. If you cannot, leave him alone and sing your song somewhere else. 

Don’t drag him, leave him alone.

Slowly respect might arise for each other. 

The basic requirement for love is that the other one has to be given the absolute freedom to be himself. 

And that might be one of the best foundations for a temple of love. 


Liebe gibt es auch auf meinen nächsten Lesungen: am 26.11 und 27.11 auf dem @maerchenbazar vom @wanndacircus, jeweils 14-15h // Eintritt frei // Märchenbazar, Olympia Park Süd, Spiridon-Louis-Ring 100, 80809 München




We are all different but still the same. Different in our cultural behaviors and preferences but same in regard of what defines us as humans. I love India despite its particular challenges. I love watching the holy cows passing by in the busy streets of Varanasi or laying relaxed at the beaches in Kerala. They move stoically, sit down in the middle of the road or just chew repetitively. In the Western world, most of the cows are looked-in in mass-cages. Once, I experienced the crying pain of a female cow from whom the baby cow was taken away. The mother cow literally went crazy. She freaked out. Humans belong to the species of animal. Even if we do everything to distinguish us from them so that we can view ourselves being superior. But at the end, there is no demarcation line. We are different but still the same.


Soldiers, not older than 19 years. One who spoke a bit of English. A limited conversation was possible.

When I looked into the faces of the soldiers standing around me, I could see childishness pared with innocence. Boys, not men yet? 

But at the same time, they are ready to kill and they are ready to die in the fight. 

To fight a battle that is more than 10.000km away from their home Vladivostok.

The guy who run me over in his car last year by not respecting the right light was 20 years old. He was punished after German juvenile criminal law.

At the other end of the world, younger men as him were recruited to fight a war for a cause they might not even understand themselves clearly enough. Younger man who might have joined the military mainly because of financial needs?

Still, they were more boys then men to me.

Something we might consider to prohibit on an international level. 

But who would then go to war, in particular when not in front of your door step. 

Would you? 


Just recently, I was speaking with my (female) friends about one key difference between men and women: competition.

I find it not as common to support each other between women as I can see it happen between men.

My perspective of the world is also marked from years of investment banking and more than a decade of M&A business leadership: both areas with male predominance. 
When I have started to work in this field, more than 15 years ago, women were rare. The financial sector was a typical playing field for men.

Those few women – interesting enough – were not creating coming solid ground in the sense of supporting each other, providing business opportunities for each other or exchanging best practices experiences. Nope – at least in Germany where I worked – on the contrary: they largely saw each other as competitors.

Years have gone by, more women are working in the financial business but still: I miss the cooperation. Men are doing better here, that’s at least my view. 

Just have a look how they do business: one usual key factor of success for men is to go have a drink after meeting / office time with their potential business partners – and schwups: the deal is closed in between two beers. 

Difficult to get in as a woman. But possible.

What I want to suggest?

I d love to more follow the idea that in particular we women should not view ourselves as competitors. It would be gorgeous to see a female counterpart who has a great idea, another beautiful skill or a smart solution simply as a mentor for ourselves. Someone who initiate a chance to grow within us. 

Train your mind and make sure YOU manage your mind and he not you. Become creative when it comes to how to play the game of life.

And please my dear female friends here: let’s support other women – lift them up instead of down. To strengthen women’s right and life positions was always one key element for me and a major factor to become a lawyer. 


Ever wonder why you’re attracted to some people & triggered by others? It’s not happening by chance.

The people you’re attracted to may actually have qualities you desire, that you have yet to embody yourself. So look at them as an inspiration as to how you truly want to live.

If you seek connection outside, without first embodying it within yourself, then your source of connection is dependent of factors outside your control. 

This not only gives your power away, but it is a setup for suffering. 

Manage your mind, play the creative game of life and view the people you judge, or are triggered by, as your shadow trainer.

They reveal to you parts of yourself you have not yet come to accept & love. Or they present to you wounds you carry from past traumatic experiences that have not been properly processed. 

To become the boss of your mind and use it as a great source of inspiration and creativity is the path to true freedom.

Think about it, don’t just follow my ideas – make your experiences and come to a conclusion for yourself. As someone else can never live your life and will never be able to make the experiences for you.


Lesson one: Never go hiking without a warm cap, gloves and another jacket, even when the mountain is “just” 1737m high and it’s spring time.

Lesson two: Weather can change rapidly and temperature might drop within minutes.

Lesson three: No matter what happens – keep the positive vibe as we are all energy and we attract what we believe in.

Lesson four: Adventure time is amazing and feeling the change from rain to snow to thunder and then the opening up of the sky high above the clouds is heart filling and makes you feel so alive.

Lesson five: Leaving for nature after Business time – that was for us after 6pm on that day – is time well spent.

Lesson six: A flash without a thunder sound on the top of the mountain is an experience (that I never made before that day) with which you feel electricity until the end of your hair lace (true).

Lesson seven: Deciding then at 7.30pm after snow fall, rain and thunderstorm to explore a new path down (night falls at 9.30am these days) is generally spoken a reasonable decision when official walking down time is estimated with an hour.

Lesson eight: It all comes different in life than planed and getting “lost” under these circumstances might become challenging – we found ourselves 1.5h after at another peak.

Lesson nine: Crapping with your hands in the mud to climb over wet steep roots and stones makes you feel alive too.

Lesson ten: Don’t think of what might terribly happen to you (we are what we believe in) but try keeping your mind calm by enjoying the cloudy evening sky opening up showing the magic and beauty of life. Same feeling when you finally reach the first village at 10.30pm even when your car is still a 10km distance away.


Life is uncertainty. It is a lottery game, because none of us knows what will happen and only a fool thinks he is “safe” in life. 

As long as you are alive, you just cannot be “safe”. You are „safe“ only when you are in the grave. Before that it is not possible.

Where should “security” come from? There are illnesses, death, your partner can die, the bank can go bankrupt, you can lose your job or become paralyzed in an accident. 

The misconception that you can get “security” is the real problem. Because nobody, really nobody in this world can make “security” possible. 

Life and death belong together. It is like breathing in and breathing out, like light and darkness, like love and hate. 

If you want an alive man, you have to take risks. Such a man is „dangerous“. Maybe he will fall in love with another woman and leave you? But if you are alive too, you can also fall in love with someone else. This is exactly how life is: it simply ignores morality and law. 

Only over „death“ you can have control. You are then also easier to control: maybe you are in a “dead” marriage and have everything else – a middle-class house, a well-filled bank account, a car, children, a great job … all this might looks like “security” for your neighbor. Maybe you yourself have the feeling that this is the “security” you always wanted … but is it really true? Do you feel alive?

Security in life is not provided for us by the universe. The just mentioned things are only pleasantnesses, which can come and go. And that from today and tomorrow. 

The only “security” we have is uncertainty and smart is the one who can enjoy it. Because if you embrace uncertainty, something wonderful happens: it will disappear. 

Sounds paradoxical – but the whole life is paradoxical!

You might then not feel safer, but there will be less worries and fears in your life. And this is the beginning of an exciting journey towards more curiosity and excitement about what the next day will bring. 

And that is exactly what will keep you alive. And that’s important because there are already so many people who have stopped living before their natural death. They have stopped listening to the music of life, dancing instead of walking, and recognizing the beauty in small things. Yet our life is best lived totally and intensely – as if you wanted to extract all the nectar from every moment without losing a single drop.