Life is nothing for sissies. Fate will ALWAYS throw life challenges at you. That IS life. 

This or something similar was once said by the philosopher Seneca. 

I’ve noticed that we humans like to wallow in self-pity. Just last week I met a acquaintance who told me why he believes he is not capable of having a relationship, even at the age of forty. He said the disastrous partnership of his parents brought him to where he is today: not capable of committing to a woman. Self-pity. A diabolical thought process.

The next day, I met a colleague who calls herself a feminist and gave me an epic presentation of how much injustice has been done to women over the last millennia. Self-pity, too, but a collective one.

Self-pity seems to be en vogue. Especially when it comes to work with coaches. It’s called coming to terms with the past. And this refers not only to the individual, but also to whole groups of people. They see themselves as victims of incidents that have been going on for centuries. Occasionally, this is analyzed and evaluated in detail by scientists, psychologists and universities. 

This includes, for example, homosexuals, immigrants, blacks and indigenous people. Do not misunderstand: All this is comprehensible, justifiable and justified. 

My question is the following: does putting a large portion of attention/ energy into this really brings us that much further? And how many centuries should we go back to reappraise certain events? A decade, a century, several centuries?

Self-pity and the victimhood that goes with it is one of the most counterproductive behaviors I think there is in life. 

Self-pity is like a whirlwind that carries us along stronger and stronger the closer we get to it. Once in it, it’s easy to border paranoia: Some people then feel that a group of people, humanity, or even the entire universe is ganging up on them. 

Instead, how about ACCEPTING the adversities and injustices of the past in order to manage them and deal with them better TODAY? What’s the point of rehashing, taking apart our childhood and finding things we would rather have forgotten, but which we can now use to blame for our current situation?

Many people won’t like what I’m about to write, but let’s face it: I can’t really blame my parents alone for certain behaviors and characteristics of my person when I’m over 40. What if it is rather an immature behavior? After all, isn’t there an expiration date for blaming others? And when does personal responsibility for one’s own life begin? And yes, even in criminal law, mitigating circumstances are often thrown into the ring that occurred early in childhood – in many cases, I don’t understand that reasoning. 

Every single one of us has – that’s how I see it – the duty to clean up his own shit in life and if she/he doesn’t do that after a certain level maturity in life, maybe she/he should bear 100% of the responsibility for it?

As simple as this – it is also part of an EMPOWERED lifestyle to me: To show up and bear responsibility without excuses of the past. 


And as some people are wondering: I am a German lawyer/ Business Strategist and artist. 

Yeap – both parts of my brain, the left and the right, is okay-ly development and I am the living proof that both can not just co-exist but even co-support and co-create.

To me, it’s more a question about „when“ to apply the rational – more analytical – brain side and when the creative one. 

A life without art would not be possible for me. I only feel comfy when both parts of me a nourished: working on interesting business projects as well as exploring life with my creative side.

Ah, something I would love to mention also today: creativity is something you can train. It’s like a muscle. And you don’t need to be an artist to be creative.

Happy Tuesday!

PS Attached is one of my drawings „Fly away and don’t come back“. In case you are interested in getting one of the art pieces, send me a PM and let’s talk about it. Always happy when they find a lovely new home for some colorful inspiration. 

More work: www.corinna-rosa.com 


Either you put your energy into the glory of humankind or you try to crash it all down into degradation.

The decision is up to you and nobody else.

If you are smiling to the person sitting next to you in the tram, you have voted for the glory. If you are nasty to the guy of the mobile telephone hotline, you went for degradation (happens to me far too often). Making a donation for a good cause is for the glory. Lying is for degradation. Listening to a charming jazz concert and kissing under a rainbow is glory, talking badly about your partner behind her/his back definitely is degradation.
I am sure you get what I mean.

A good way to increase the vibe of humankind is to do ANYTHING that challenges us, makes us smile and laugh, improves us, makes us have less fear in life and more enjoy unexpected adventures – actually EVERYTHING that let us strive to become a better person. It all brings us into the golden light of glory. Word.

EACH of us can be the change we request for the world.

And YOU TOO – by SIMPLY DECIDING whether you go for the glory or for the degradation. And if you have not decided for the glory the last time, you can decide NOW as you are never your past.

Maybe the thought that you cannot stand this f* talk about being good anymore is crossing your mind?

I hear you, but there if of course a „but“: It’s about the law of RECIPROCITY. You will receive in life what you have planted before. And it is true. It is the good KARMA principle.

Being good can therefore me seen as a pure private thing. Wow.

Keep it for yourself, do not tell anybody but practice it and watch what is happening. Maybe the magic of life is showing up for you.

Don’t try to change other people to become good.

Don’t brag.

Just be good without any words.